It’s a date

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It’s a date

“I feel like even if you date someone and it goes terribly wrong it teaches you something,” Finley said.

“I feel like even if you date someone and it goes terribly wrong it teaches you something,” Finley said.

Sophie Smith

“I feel like even if you date someone and it goes terribly wrong it teaches you something,” Finley said.

Sophie Smith

Sophie Smith

“I feel like even if you date someone and it goes terribly wrong it teaches you something,” Finley said.

Grace Fearheiley, web staffer

Most high schoolers have heard an older figure in their lives say they are too young to be in a serious relationship or in love. According to Eileen Finley, junior, who has been dating her boyfriend for over two years, this myth about young love has existed for an incredibly long time. Finley believes dating in high school is important because it can be more difficult to meet people as an adult.

[Being a teenager is] really an opportunity to understand yourself and what your interests are and what kind of person you want to be in a relationship with.”

— John Walsh

“I think sometimes people don’t know if they’re with the right person at a young age,” Finley said. “I don’t think [anyone is] ever too young to be in a relationship. Even when our parents were in high school, their parents were like ‘You’re too young to date, you’re too young to be in love,’ and that’s what people still say.”

Audrey Blaine, freshman, says relationships in high school are most likely going to be less meaningful than adult relationships. This statement was backed by a ‘New York Times’ article, “Secrets to Lasting Relationships From High School Sweethearts.” In this article Jaclyn Peiser states, “The perception that a high school romance is likely to end when college or adulthood begins is not lost on these couples.” According to Peister, some couples who meet in high school are able to fall in love and stay in love after high school. They learn how to mature together despite the perception that high school relationships cannot last beyond high school.

“I don’t think people are going to necessarily find their true love in high school,” Blaine said. “They might, they might not. It depends on the extent of how serious [a relationship] is. A relationship shouldn’t be as serious in high school, but when you get into college or later in life it’s probably okay.”

Mihir Shah, junior, said depending on goals and interests of those in a couple during high school, a relationship could become a distraction. Shah said a relationship in high school should not interfere with people’s personal goals.

“I’d say [serious relationships in high school] are okay as long as they have balance,” Shah said. “If the relationship begins to hurt the personal passions and goals of both people, the relationship becomes more of a distraction. But if both people in a couple find enough time with each other and can achieve their own goals for their future at the same time, a serious relationship is completely okay.”

Finley’s boyfriend, John Walsh, junior at Chaminade College Preparatory School, said there are probably more people in relationships during high school now then when our parents’ generation was in high school because more people meet on social media platforms.

“Being able to meet new people and understanding what a relationship has to offer is really important,” Walsh said. “[Being a teenager is] really an opportunity to understand yourself and what your interests are and what kind of person you want to be in a relationship with. Having a relationship in high school can really benefit you as to [learning] what kind of person makes you happy.”

According to Finley, it is a lot harder as an adult to meet people because in high school people are introduced to many people their age. No matter the outcome of the relationship, dating teaches people what to do and what not to do in the future.

“I feel like even if you date someone and it goes terribly wrong it teaches you something,” Finley said. “If something does go right and you’re dating someone for two and a half years, then you learn who you love and what you like in a partner and it’s also a good opportunity to meet people.” 

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